Dating someone who is hiv positive
HIVequal.org: How to Date an HIV-positive Guy offers the ‘rules’ and ‘reactions’ to dating openly in the 21st century in this article chronicling one man’s search for love as an HIV-positive gay man.
What will hurt his feelings is if you make assumptions and don’t give him the benefit of the doubt. Just because he was upfront and honest with you about his status, doesn’t mean he is a pro at dating while HIV-positive.
He may have just as many fears or concerns as you do. If he respected you enough to tell about his status you right away, respect him enough to keep his status to yourself.
Don’t just assume that if you are comfortable with something, whether is a sexual or social situation or somewhere in between, that he is too. Talk to your friends about how he makes you feel or how good the kisses are.
First, I am glad that you asked such a difficult question and I commend you for your honesty.
It is one thing to talk about this issue with your supposed HIV-negative friends, but it is quite another to ask an openly HIV-positive person such a question.
Andrew was sweet, honest, and relatively unaffected by the opinions of others.